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Whether in Your Personal or Business Life
Putting on your Wonder Woman cape and taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and actions means you're taking charge of your own life and shaping your future.
The Ego has two main jobs. To keep us right and (over) protect us, keeping us small. If we let the Ego run the show, then we’d never accept responsibility and live in a world where we blamed everyone and everything else instead of being brave enough to take responsibility and look within us to discover what the real issue is.
Taking responsibility and admitting you’re wrong, if that’s required, actually sets us free and enables us to reclaim our truth from within. And, it is speaking and living our truth which gives us power.
No more excuses, no more playing the victim and no more negative thoughts impacting your current reality.
When we constantly have excuses, or blame external issues or people for things we’re not taking responsibility for ourselves and in our lives, we’re giving our power to the object or other person. This means "It" or "They" have a hold over us.
We Have a Choice.
We choose how we think, feel and act. We also choose how we react to someone or something. If someone has made us angry, we’re choosing to be angry, (hard to hear I know, I spent several years consumed with anger and rage towards someone) which means they have a hold over us and we’re giving them all of our power.
Forgive, bless and release to set yourself free. You’re not letting them off the hook, you’re releasing yourself from the power they have over you and your “Negative” thoughts and emotions every time you are choosing to think about the situation or person.
Not wanting to get all “Hippy” on you, but these thoughts and feelings are bringing down your vibration, therefore harming your current and future reality.
To Break the Seductive State of Blaming Others
Or playing the victim, we need to have a "Breakthrough" moment. Like in the movie Labyrinth, when Sarah says to the Goblin King (David Bowie), “You have no power over me”.
Don’t give your power to emotions like blame or shame, or let anyone else pull the strings in your life. You’re the Mistress of your thoughts, feelings, actions and ultimately your own life.
We are, of course, all only human. We do make mistakes, but if we acknowledge them, own up to them and accept responsibility, we reclaim our power and take back control of the situation, enabling us to stand that little bit taller and with more confidence.
Now, I’m Not Saying This Is Easy.
Sometimes it can be really difficult and sometimes, we’re just not ready. And that’s ok. We must really desire the freedom and lightness which is on the other side of reclaiming our power.
If You Desire to Accept Responsibility & Reclaim Your Power, Try These 5 Steps:
- Notice when you slip into "Victim" or "Blaming" mode, the first step is acknowledging that we do it!
- Notice any patterns forming. When you talk about the situation, do you always blame outside circumstances? When you’re with that person, do you always play the victim?
- Go within, discover and uncover what the real issue is. What is really triggering you about the situation or the person? Feel into it, can you find an agreement or contract you’ve made with yourself about how you “Should” react. Example agreement or contract:: “I give my power away when I meet older women, as I want them to like me.”
- Forgive the situation, the person or yourself. Not forgiving ensures the situation or person still has a hold or impact on you. Set yourself free, move on and stand in all your powerful glory.
- If you’re at fault, acknowledge it, (apologise if it’s necessary) release it and move on. Stop letting it weigh you down or worrying over it. If you’re worrying about something, you just invite more worry into your life.
Once you’ve become aware of where you give your power away and have interrupted the pattern, set an intention of how you would like to think, feel and act before you enter the situation or meet the person again.
Shinning a Light on Our Fears Can be Scary
And not opening the black box which houses them may feel easier than addressing them. However, that which is brought into the light and up to the surface, we can take responsibility for, can be healed and will no longer have any power over us.
With love and gratitude always,